By Andrea Boeshaar

White lights gleam and colored bulbs glow from fake, frosty
tree limbs. Sparkly ornaments beckon to shoppers as they pass by. Ah, it's
Christmastime, the most wonderful time of the year.
I get into the "Christmas spirit" the day after
Thanksgiving. I'm a gift-giver and I so enjoy to shop and get the deals on
Black Friday -- yes, I make it to the early morning door-buster sales, although
I don't camp out on sidewalks. Starting that Black Friday weekend, I can usually
check off everyone on my Christmas list by December 1st -- which is the day I
like to mail off my Christmas cards too. Next I get my tree up and decorated
and get rolled gingerbread cookies baked -- usually by the middle of the month.
But this year…Bah! Humbug! No tree. Too much trouble. And the
gingerbread? Haven't even started and don't know if I will.
I've been wondering what's wrong with me. I can't seem to
get into the whole Christmas thing. I talked with my sister yesterday and she's
feeling the same way. We concluded that it's because Mom won't be here with us
this year. She died in February, leaving us to make the Norwegian meatballs and
deviled eggs (*smile*). Mom always came by and helped my sister clean her house
before all of us gathered there on Christmas Day. Mom liked cleaning so my sister
and I gave her opportunities to enjoy herself whenever possible. But last year
Mom was so ill she could only sit and visit a short while before my nephew
needed to drive her home and help her back into bed. I also realized yesterday,
after sitting through the Christmas service at church, that I can often lose
sight of the real meaning of Christmas due to all the glimmer and the CHA-CHING at the cash registers.
This year my husband and I purchased some toys for the
grandkids and I knitted and crocheted scarves for them. With each stitch, I
prayed for them. They'll go nicely with hats I purchased for them at a resale
shop. What a find! The hats were brand new, still with price tags on them. Each
of my sons will get a gift, as I did venture out on Black Friday, and I
promised my hubby a shopping trip to a department store where he can select a
watch that HE wants instead of one that I find flashy.
I've decided that it's OK to get back to basics and reflect
on the things which are most important, like fun memories of Mom. She loved us
and proved it by everything she did -- to the point, many times of making us
crazy. That was no secret, either.
Mom also enjoyed reading my books. She was my biggest fan!
So, on my website, www.andreaboeshaar.com, I'm offering readers the gift of
story. It's a downloadable Christmas novella about rediscovering the gift of
love.
And that's what Christmas is grounded in -- or should be,
anyway. Love! God's love for us and, in turn our love for others. Merry Christmas!










Saying goodbye is so difficult, especially when it's someone who plays such an integral part of our lives. It sounds like this will be a bittersweet time for you and your family. I pray you'll feel God's presence as you reflect on years past, and look forward to those yet ahead.
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What a lovely post, Andrea. I'm sorry for your loss. How sweet that your mom was your biggest fan. I love that. My mom reads all my writings, too, and it means so much.
ReplyDeleteI'm heading over to check out your website. Thank you!
Welcome, Andrea. Thanks you for a touching tribute.
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